In my experience, “Love” sometimes gets a bad rap. I get the feeling it is often sensed and/or seen as a touchy – feelie, “Kum Ba Ya”, New-Agey topic. Yet, at the risk of sounding cliche-ish, Love has the power to heal all ills, sadness, heart-ache and suffering. It is as if to have the deep conversation about Love either directly or indirectly makes people uncomfortable. What is this about? What are we so afraid of? I know from my own experience, as life has whittled down my self-imposed defensive barrier, I have come face to face with the essence of Love. Embracing Love within me has made me more vulnerable, full, whole and real. I have grown into myself as a result of Love.
Yet, what do I mean by the word and how am I applying it in this post? I define Love as everything we see, experience, taste, feel and are. It isn’t limited to an emotion of how one feels for another – person, child, parent, mate, partner, pet, country, etc. These are merely expressions of the Love we carry around inside of us.
Love isn’t a “thing”…it is a state of Being. It is what defines us. It is the essence of who we are – always here, never gone. In denying Love or putting it on the “back burner” of life we disempower ourselves. Expressing the strength of Love in our daily lives doesn’t mean to be weak or wimpy. It is the exact opposite. To allow the Love that you are to come forth shows strength and courage. And I know from my own personal experience that sometimes this means being “tough”. Yet I’ve also discovered that in tough times, when one taps in the this essence of oneself and comes from Love, the right words are spoken and the correct actions are taken. It becomes the force that directs our life.
An Exercise in Love:
Take out your journal and pen and answer the following questions:
- What is Love to you?
- How do you experience Love playing out in your daily life?
- How does Love define you as a person?
- How can you allow the Love that is you or in you to express more fully in your life?
- What are some simple things you can do that honor Love? List 5 to 10 ideas that you can incorporate into your everyday life. (Examples: taking the time chat with someone you’ve met for the first time (store, school, work, party), looking him/her directly in the eye, really listening to what someone is telling you and getting in that person’s shoes, etc.)
- Once you’ve finished your list, pick two to three of these and create an intention to incorporate these in your life. Write them on a 3 – 5 card and read over them at night before you go to sleep. Do this for as often as needed until these become a natural way of expressing the Love that is within you in your daily life.
- When you’ve finished those two or three, return to this list and pick a few more. Repeat the process until you are fully expressing them all in your life.